We are living among people – various people. We communicate with them, we build business and personal relationships – more or less successfully – with them.
How do we get our bearings in relationship with another person, especially if we see them for the first time? How do we present ourselves and our thoughts to be understood clearly? How do we define values, and how do we find “a key” to another person’s values, and how do we do so on first sight?
The architecture of relationships is a sort of compass in the world of communications.
Relationships don't come about by themselves. Infatuations, affections, sexual desires are born, but relationships we have to build every day, considering a partner’s mood, their desires, our desires and proposed circumstances. People do indeed differ. And to truly understand each other and to be able to get along with each other, we need to know how that other person lives, what they hold dear, what is their uniqueness. Every one of us wants to be understood and to be heard, everyone wants recognition and fulfillment. Conflicts are born where relationships were built on an instable foundation, because stable cooperation, which implies the necessity and ability to speak to another person in THEIR language and to consider THEIR life values, did not take place.
A person is viewed fairly as some comparatively unchangeable element of society. In all aspects of life, people have an appetite for honor and fear derision, consider public opinion, care for their property, their children, admire courage, magnanimity and success.
In the long run, what we mean by self-consciousness is the awakening in us of that collective of attitudes, which we awaken in others, especially when it is some important set of responses, crucial for members of the community. One should not confuse and mix consciousness in its common sense with self-consciousness. Consciousness, in the broad sense, is just something that has to do with the sphere of experience, whereas self-consciousness pertains to the ability to arouse some set of certain responses in ourselves, which other members of the group possess. Consciousness and self-consciousness are set on different levels. How it influences our actions and deeds, directed towards us, is explained by the architecture of relationships – what should be built or rebuilt.
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